06-10-2019 10:12 PM
Hey there all, just saying hello. I'm a 51 year old woman, and I live in NSW. I struggle with depression and anxiety and emotional over-eating, and I'm having a hard time feeling alone with all this. I'm also smart and strong and loving and creative, with lots of interests in life, some skills and talents, and some important passions. I make mistakes, and I have regrets, but I do a lot of things right too - so I will not submit to the shame that my mind tries to bury me in, no matter how intense it gets. And I'm damned if I'm going to define myself by my emotional and psychological issues. I am more than those. I'm here to get support in managing the stuff I grapple with. I hope I may also provide a few helpful words here and there to other people too.
07-10-2019 12:27 AM
@Melanie-cat Hey Melanie-cat and welcome to the forum xx. 51 you are a youngan I am turning 55 in November . I also live in NSW and am in the process of trying to get fit by doing loads of walking and healthy eating - love the walking loathe the healthy eating . You have come to the right place if you are feeling alone as there is generally someone online 24/7 who would love to have a talk. I live with my kidults and wonder how I would go if they moved out ..... it would be hard to get used to but will happen one day.
There are some great threads you might like to try out the 'good morning!' thread to start with. It is a thread which goes on all day and is one of my favourite and then there is the 'a long rave' thread which is another good one. Have a look around and when you feel up to it say hello Oh and btw if you want to talk with anyone in particular put a @in front of their name like I did for you and that will send a notification to them of your message.
Take care and I hope to see you around. Love peaxx
07-10-2019 01:58 AM
Hi 👋🏻 @Melanie-cat.
Thats a pretty cool intro 😊. I could maybe learn a lesson or two from you, I still submit to shame and other destructive thoughts although slowly slowly improving.
I hope you find some connection and support here.
Best wishes 😊
07-10-2019 07:16 AM
Hi @Melanie-cat, welcome to the forum. Not letting your MH define you is a really great stance. I am not there yet, but I hope to be.
Great intro, hope to see you around the forum 🦋🌻
07-10-2019 09:38 AM
Thank you so much, @Teej ... As far as I'm concerned, if anything's changing in how you respond to shame, then you're winning; if you even have the awareness that you can potentially, when strong enough, stand apart from shame and resist it, rather than believing everything it tells you, then you're winning
07-10-2019 10:02 AM
@greenpea What a great message I am also striving to change my eating and exercise habits, which at present are bloody abysmal. I love eating healthy, it's just that I have an addictive-like craving for the unhealthy stuff too, in direct proportion to how not-happy I am! Exercise is harder to want to do, because it physically hurts, but I think tiny bits of exercise are the way back in. It helps to remember that I have been better than this in how I eat and how I move, at times in the past, therefore it must be possible to get back to something like that again. Some days it feels so hopeless, but I don't think I have to feel hope, which sometimes we just cannot feel. I believe that the opposite of hopelessness isn't hope, it's action or movement. I keep telling myself that every time I move a muscle, even breathe deeper, it is a small victory. Anyway thank you for the welcome, and it is good to communicate with someone who is aiming at the same target
07-10-2019 10:15 AM
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