Great idea @CheerBear, thanks for starting the thread.
I can be incredibly demanding of myself (moreso than others are of me) and tend to think in absolute terms - that if something isn't "perfect" then it's "rubbish". Even though I KNOW this not to be true it's difficult to get over the automatic feeling.
It has helped a bit to learn about schema modes and the concept of a "demanding parent mode". That way, I can try to see my attitude/expectations as maladaptive traits that I can work on, rather than an ideal to strive for. So, when trying to set more realistic expectations for myself I will still feel like I'm failing (at being perfect), but I can try to offset this by viewing it as progress in tackling a maladaptive mode.
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