From the lived experience part I think that receiving just a short personal message that someone is thinking of you without any expectations for a returned message or response is something I’ve really appreciated. Even if it was a meme or something you share with that person is connection without demand or need.
From a carer I think acknowledging that you can’t 'fix' them, only the person going through it can work on their mental health is a big one. It’s hard but mportant.
I think just just recently I learned through a personal situation that sometimes asking the person what they need in a specific way helps. I don’t think asking what can I do to help is often helpful as that is too broad. Maybe asking the little stuff builds up a better picture for both the carer and person struggling through being unwell. It can be the little things. Do you mind me dropping in and making you a (insert drink food). Does it help or annoy you when I text you every ??? I think those kind of closed questions when you are struggling kind of build up a structure that the person feels heard and the carer has a better understanding of what helps. Also a constant reminder that you are their if they need anything and that they are loved. These opinions are just mine from observng and learning. It’s not easy and I’m no longer in the middle of being a carer so write this one step removed.
