I changed my settings a while ago @EternalFlower . The default settings are a bit "spammy". Kind of makes sense though. Gives people reminders that when they reached out, something happened.
When I look at your reflections I keep thinking about the difference (or maybe spectrum) between the "clinical" approach of psychologists and the "interpersonal" approach of counselors. See what I mean by spectrum? They're two different things but they draw on each other.
It's a bit opposite-land in my situation. I do have a sense of attachment to my psychologist and it makes me nervous. I have some complex and under-researched stuff going on and most of it is rooted in attachment, so if the science doesn't come first, I risk getting left behind. I like the clinical relationship, kind of for the right and the wrong reasons.
But, I've been deliberately reaching out to counselor dynamics. In, so many ways. Being in a community education setting, this forum, various phone in services, pro-social para-social internet channels and now and then actually making an extra effort to reach out to old and new family and friends.
For me, it's equaled putting theory into practice. Also, doing things in a way where I can spread myself out a bit and not relying too much on any single group or person. That's me, though. Feels like we're looking for similar things, but everyone needs their own map to get there.
What I'm roughly saying is, we all need a bit of interpersonal and a bit of clinical and both of them, one way or another, "takes a village". Depends on what personal village you want to build.
