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05-07-2016 09:35 PM
05-07-2016 09:35 PM
Making friends in your 30s and beyond
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05-07-2016 09:48 PM
05-07-2016 09:48 PM
Re: Making friends in your 30s and beyond
im not sure i've met you, but hi! Im same age and find it really hard to find friends and meet people. plus being a single mum doesnt give me much 'me' time. How old is your child? is there anything that he or she does that would help you meet people? if they're young, there's lots of baby/toddler classes/groups run at local libraries these days that could be a casual way to meet people? or if they're a bit older a sport or hobby for them that could help you get out and meet people. Or perhaps its a good time to find an interest or hobby just for you...?
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06-07-2016 01:33 AM
06-07-2016 01:33 AM
Re: Making friends in your 30s and beyond
Let us know how you get on.
Oh walking a dog in my town takes twice as long as everyone wants to pat her. Suggestion.
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11-07-2016 10:27 PM
11-07-2016 10:27 PM
Re: Making friends in your 30s and beyond
Hello @Princessmolly
My name is @PeppyPatti and I'm 48 years old. My hubby and I married very quickly, we have been together for 5 years maybe 6 not including an 18 month seperation. We spend 24/7 together, which has it's difficulties as well as highlights.
I LIKE very much that you are asking this question. I really think that there is a feeling of being resentful and angry from loneliness.
In the past, my Mother has absolutely shattered any self confidence I have had and I havent been able to leave the home or.....have anough space in my head to think of others.
Now I'm on the right medication and I can see that I am more comfortalbe with myself.
Being comfortalbe with myself, I feel has given me more confidence to allow good woman in my life.
the issue we have is sometimes we dont know how to make friends.
Nice meeting you, PP
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18-07-2016 04:07 AM
18-07-2016 04:07 AM
Re: Making friends in your 30s and beyond
try meetup.com there are groups for shyness, anxiety and for all age groups and it's pretty informal. your local council or library might have a list of other community groups
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21-07-2016 12:24 PM
21-07-2016 12:24 PM
Re: Making friends in your 30s and beyond
As others said, depending on your childs age, join a playgroup, or the parent-teacher association, and get involved that way.
You sound a lot like I was, but I so didn't want my children growing up as introverted as me that I forced myself out of my comfort zone and got involved for their sakes.
At times I'd be so nervous that I'd go deaf, that made it really difficult, but I pushed on. Takes a lot of effort, but it has been worth it.
Mind you, I'd feel so relieved to get back home and shut the door 🙂 🙂 🙂
Hugs 🙂
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29-07-2016 06:26 AM
29-07-2016 06:26 AM
Re: Making friends in your 30s and beyond
I am sorry to hear how lonesome you are! Evidently, you are not a church person, the Protestant churches do fellowship really well. A lot of churches do have outreach things like craft groups and stuff, you can go even if you are not affiliated with the church. If you have any hobbies, there are bound to be a group you can join, the more physical ones have a wider spread of ages and gender. Pubs and clubs appeal to some folk.
i am a passionate needlewoman and yarn Meister. Just returned from a fabulous week in Auckland at the Embroiderers Guild knees up. 500 smiling passionate needle women and a couple of men was a joy....such beautiful items created by everyday people.....oh yeah I gave the wallet a pounding too, my town has very little in the way of my hobby needs.
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29-07-2016 07:12 AM
29-07-2016 07:12 AM
Re: Making friends in your 30s and beyond
Yarn Meister ... lovely term @Neb
Puts your pic in perspective.
I dont have any other suggestions ... but keep reaching out ... and dont take other's shortcomings as a reflection of you ... everyones got heaps of baggage ... listen to your feelings they are part of the key to relationships ...
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19-08-2016 02:22 PM
19-08-2016 02:22 PM
Re: Making friends in your 30s and beyond
@Princessmolly
I totally understand your loneliness.
I am in my mid 50's, I moved interstate a few years back.
Left all my friends behind.
I can be shy at times, and i tend to loose friends that i have made over the years.
All to do with the fact of when growing up i wernt allowed to have friends over or go to visit friends.
I now have some really genuine caring friends, that i know they are always only a phone call away.
Sorry going off track a little.
When i first moved interstate.
I looked in the local magazine, chose all things that i enjoy being involved in.
Bush Walking, Yoga, Gym, Swimming, a Gardening club.
Volunteering within my little Community.
I was thinking if yourself & your child like to garden.
most towns suburbs have a community garden.
maybe you would like to start there.
I find here in our town, they are very friendly at our community garden.
as well very helpful.
I hope this has been of some help.
It can be very hard at times.
Baby steps.
I wish you both well 👍
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19-08-2016 09:26 PM
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